Daniel Mackler, revered psychotherapist, writer, filmmaker and musician, hits the proverbial nail on the head with his take on forgiveness.
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(or if anyone does, be annoyed, be angry, cut the chain)
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Forgiveness allows villains a path to extend their cruelty: a means to continue to hurt you and others time and again.
For years, I allowed an indolent, condescending, contradictory, "woe is me," hateful, drama-queen lush from Upstate NY belittle me. By not pushing back (by shrugging off his insistent derision), I encouraged him to ramp up his disdain, which then gave him the idea to bully others. He did this to conceal his insecurities and flaws, of which there were many (chosen unemployment being on the top of the list). I should have struck back and/or cut ties as soon as the browbeating began. It was my duty to do so (the right thing to do), but still I played the conciliating (forgiving) fool. To this day, I regret my feeble forbearance. I told myself I was being kind, when in truth, I was encouraging unacceptable behavior.
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View Mackler's video. To me, it brims of brilliance and logic. Perhaps you'll agree.
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